I am a liberated woman, not religious but spiritual, and a conservationist when it comes to ecology and the environment. I am pro-technology, pro-business, industry and advancement, yet also a human rights activist who advocates regulated capitalism and ancestral lands conservation, and cultural and individual respect. I believe in understanding rather than “tolerance.”
I am also a Philosopher. My philosophies are mine and open to growth. Never would I impose my beliefs or self on others. I embrace all that I come in contact with or discover and throw away what is not suited for me. I’m not asking anyone’s permission to enjoy myself. I only apologize for myself when I am wrong!
In sex work, I am a practitioner of BDSM, bodywork, FBSM, fetish, fantasy and role play. My skills, knowledge, and services I provide come from pain and study, and the experience of life. I have come to be able to give and receive exquisite, tantalizing pleasure; in candlelit rooms filled with the fragrances that permeate the air, through my nostrils, up to my brain then slowly down my body to my cosmic, clitoral pearl.
It all is a translation of the joy that my senses are experiencing, and the senses of those who join me, male and female, who join with me. Sensations can come from every direction. There is the sensation of skin touching the skin, the sight of the flesh of different colors contrasting in erotic fantasies brought to life.
Indeed, life itself can be one great fantasy, brought to life if you accept that which has been given you and that which is there. Ecstasy is a simple personal creation, that which the senses enjoy together or individually. You can reach one’s peak at any time if you honestly answer to that which comes from within.
Obey your taste buds, the sounds you crave, what you find beauty in, what your nostrils find delectable, what the flesh craves. Obey the truth of your mind, the wisdom of the soul and the needs of the body! We are infinite beings of energy and light.” On this planet to have physical experiences, to live! I choose sex work because it’s a never-ending intrigue.
As a sex worker, I have heard so many people describe my work as “selling my body.” My feelings are, if that’s the case, then no one should work at all! Lips, forearms, ankles, fists, vaginas, mouths, brains, tongues, eyes, hands, anuses, nails, teeth, feet–and for the really exploitative, back of knees, armpits, and back of elbow–are all part of the body! So, what are you telling me? The body makes no exclusions! Especially ones made from an indoctrinated, illogical mentality of shame! If sex is lewd, then God is a sadistic source of all things, for we have been given a biological feeling, much like, eating, drinking, urinating and defecating, a need that must be obeyed, a form of release, and healing.
When a man who is a day laborer sells his biological natural gifts and inherent strength and brute force, no one notices, no police arrest them, no public disgrace befalls them. Yet a woman displaying, acting on, owning and soliciting her god-given gifts, her feminine sexuality–her inherent source of power–there are all sorts of shaming. I do not personally do it in that manner but I do defend the rights of my fellow sex workers to be decriminalized from something that is no one’s business but the people participating.
Sexual expression is very important to the human psyche, but if one is indoctrinated against sexuality and is taught to view anyone, especially women, who are in bold and full ownership of their sexuality, as trash, then that is the foundation of disrespect, abuse, and sexual violence. It’s time to acknowledge that finding a healthy, widely-accessible outlet where everyone can explore their sexual desires and fantasies is a huge part of reducing the sexual repression in the world–the repression that leads to sexual violence and other unhealthy manifestations of shamed, stuffed-down sexuality. It’s also time to acknowledge that sex is a natural, beautiful part of life, that no matter how we partner, we are and forever will be individuals with our own personal sole needs, that our mates sometimes will not, can not and won’t satisfy and work is an important part of that healthy, widely-accessible outlet for people to un-repress, explore, realize their fantasy and un-shame their sexuality.
That’s why I am proud to be a sex worker, and will never be shamed for it! “There is nothing wrong with wanting to get rich. The desire for riches is really the desire for a richer, fuller, and more abundant life; and that desire is praiseworthy. The man who does not desire to live more abundantly is abnormal, and so the man who does not desire to have money enough to buy all he wants is abnormal. There are three motives for which we live; we live for the body, we live for the mind, we live for the soul. No one of these is better or holier than the other; all are alike desirable, and no one of the three-body, mind, or soul — can live fully if either of the others is cut short of full life and expression. It is not right or noble to live only for the soul and deny the mind or body, and it is wrong to live for the intellect and deny body or soul. We are all acquainted with the loathsome consequences of living for the body and denying both mind and soul; and we see that real life means the complete expression of all that man can give forth through body, mind, and soul. Whatever he can say, no man can be really happy or satisfied unless his body is living fully in every function, and unless the same is true of his mind and his soul.~”Wallace D. Wattles